Emotional Regulation Toolkit

My Feelings Toolkit — 

The My Feelings Toolkit is a child‑friendly emotional regulation book designed for tamariki at Tē Whare Mīharo Ora. It helps children recognise their feelings, understand their body signals, and choose strategies that support calm, confidence, and self‑control.

This toolkit introduces the Zones of Regulation in simple language, showing children what the Green, Blue, Yellow, and Red Zones feel like and how to notice early signs of overwhelm. Each page uses clear visuals, gentle wording, and predictable layouts to support neurodiverse learners.

Children learn practical tools such as:

• Breathing strategies (Box Breathing, Star Breathing, Birthday Candle Breathing)
• Movement breaks (wall pushes, chair push‑ups, stress‑ball squeezes, bear hugs, walks)
• Body awareness (where feelings show up in the body)
• Choice cards for frustration, worry, and overwhelm
• Special interests grounding to help calm the mind
• Problem‑size thinking to match reactions to situations

The toolkit also includes break cards, safe words, and body autonomy messages to empower tamariki to say no, ask for space, and communicate their needs safely.

A dedicated Guide for Mum & Dad supports whānau with co‑regulation tips, what to say during big feelings, and how to practice strategies before meltdowns. Tracking pages help families notice patterns, progress, and what strategies work best.

Created by Te Whare Mīharo Ora, this booklet is a gentle, neurodiversity‑affirming resource that helps children feel understood, supported, and proud of who they are.